BDSM rights

This topic is something that I think many fetish enthusiasts are conflicted about, and one I think deserves to never see the end of debate. BDSM rights will always be important, and to me they are this important for one reason. Trust. At the focal point of BDSM, whether it be for play or for life, whether you are blindfolding your lover with a silk scarf, or securing them in a suspended sensory deprivation bag, with a 6 inch penis gag – it all boils to the trust.

I believe every real fetishist agrees that the goal is for both parties to enjoy themselves, I would even venture to say that for example if a Master goes to the extent of permanent physical marks or passing boundries with their sub on purpose and continues to do so would not be considered a real fetishist, they would be psychotic. However this is where grey areas come in. I am constantly pushed vastly past my limits, I cry unbearably sometimes, I’ve even passed out on occasion. However I am always enjoying myself…that IS my pleasure…without that I couldn’t achieve pleasure.

I hope the flag is too scary…it should be completely opposite…the flag was made by the fine folks at BDSMrights.com. While the flag represents many things, for me it represents the idea of safe, sane, and consensual. Even at this stage of my submission I would never submit to anything that might kill me, or permanently disable me. And it is not in Master’s desires or best interests to do so either – I learned the hard way to not just toss around your submission. When I was a little younger I would give it to anyone – anytime just to satisfy the need to be used…even whoring myself in highschool (which you can find out more about here). However one too many bad experiences lead me to not give away my submission so easily. For Master it took a long time in developing our bond, but I think that reinforced my trust and servitude towards him, and now I would do nearly anything for him. But again it all boils down to trust!

Slaves are humans too. They have certain capactities and everyone is different in every way. Dom(me)s have a ridiculously hard job of reading these limitations, and desires and walking the tight rope of not going too far, but going as far as possible so that the slave can experience the most. It quite literally is like walking a tight rope. A flogging thats a little too hard, and that sub may never trust you again…flog too light and they will not be satisfied and will seek a different Master/Mistress. Often I think dom(me)s are more the slave than the slave themself!

This post was inspired by one of our readers here at slaveduties.com that desires to get deeper into the lifestyle herself…(you know who you are!). It just reminds me how many couples out there practice this lifestyle, even Masters website is a testament to that – and it scares me that there may be a small population of these people out there that may not be abiding by these general rules that I firmly believe everyone should live by. It is such a complicated topic because of the variety in everyones tastes…I for example need to be broken…physically and mentally…is that safe, sane, and consensual? Its at least 1 of the three, however the other 2 are up to debate.

I encourage talking with your slaves from time to time, and its something Master has always done…we’ve talked, as equals…rarely, but just to reaffirm everything…he recognizes my undying loyalty, which worries him that I’d stretch myself too thin for him. Which is not advantageous or desired by anyone!

Keep walking the fine line, keep learning, and enjoying.