An Internet Match Making Success
Being into BDSM can be hard on your personal relationships, trust me I know. Once you finally realize that what you really want is not just rough sex but an honest and stern Master, or maybe that you love licking feet, or like to tie people up, the world around you changes. What happens to that girlfriend or boyfriend that you are already with if they don’t accept your wants and desires? Do you blow it off and pretend like you are happy or do you leave the security of your old life and try to find a new one that will fulfill those desires? I’ve seen so many people hide who they are from loved ones and yet they would sneak around behind their partner’s back to get whipped by professional doms. Much like cheating, sneaking around to get whipped and spanked is not right. So many people think that ti is impossible to find someone with whom they can connect and who will share the same fetishes as them. I want to say to all of you non-believers that this isn’t so. You can find someone who will love you as well as take care of your darker side of desire. It’s not easy and sometimes it involves a bit of compromising, but hell what relationship doesn’t?!
I received an email this morning from Subguysissy, who had taken my advice on going to Alt.com and trying to find someone with whom he could play. He had previously been in a serious relationship but when he was comfortable enough to talk about his fantasies his girlfriend completely rejected them. She refused to be the dominant one and even said to him that what she wanted was a ‘man’ and not someone who was weak. Given the horrible ultimatum of pretending to be a manly man all the time or splitting ways so that he could find someone who would understand him better, he made the hard choice of leaving her. I’m a girl and a slave and so I can relate on the submissive level with him. I can related to the fact that you wish and pray that your partner would just spank you harder, you think that maybe you can change them or that they will change and be the dominant Master/ Mistress that you crave and need, but instead you wind up just experiencing rough sex that leaves you ultimately unsatisfied.I’ve been there. I’ve been told by a certain ex-boyfriend that I need to seek psychological help, that I am not normal. I’ve scared boys away after having told them what I really wanted. But you know what, tired as I may have been, so tired that I even considered the fact that maybe they are right and that maybe I should just keep all of this locked deep inside of me, I never did give up hope of finding someone who would get me. I have to admit that stumbling upon Alt.com was an accident. I was looking for chat rooms and blogs and sites that would form a support network for me. I thought maybe by finding other people like me on the net, I could figure out how they cope. Imagine my surprise when I find this site geared towards people just like me, to help them find partners, masters/ mistresses, lovers and friends.
So Subguysissy emailed me his story but it does not end with a breakup and terrible ending. He emailed me to tell me his story of success. Because he did find a Mistress online who lived near him and with whom he’s completely head over heels with. After 3 months of dating this guy is happier than he has ever been. She’s even keen on the idea of playing with a strapon, something which he thought he would never get to experience! I am so incredibly happy to have read his story. It always makes me happy to see someone like me, overcome all the obstacles and find their place in the world. I just wanted to share this good news with all of you and can only hope that you too, will be able to find a great consensual relationship.
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Slaveduties
Thank you so much for all your advice, you really helped me figure out so much about myself and this lifestyle through your reply and all of your posts. I am now on ALT and I have met some truly amazing and interesting people to chat with. I just recently got into a relationship with the man I’ve been in love with for a long time, and although we’re currently vanilla if I hadn’t explored this side of myself I would still have many gards up; for the first time I got to be emotionally submissive and trust the way I’ve always wanted to.
I hope it works out, but should it not I have a great group of friends on ALT that I still love talking to and learning from, which keeps me open to future possibilities. It is thanks to you that I have these options and that I now feel secure in having the freedom to act on my desires should I choose to :)
On another note I know that it is because of your Master that you have the experience to give the advice you have given, and I am so happy for both of you that you get to experience this incredible lifestyle. I’m glad you had fun on your shopping trip with Mistress Bella, and I thought it was so amazing of her to dress the both of you up as she did; I felt it promoted an underlying sense of human equality although you are the submissive, which was quite touching. I was so happy to hear about your new pet, I hope Rupert is doing well (the name is so cute!). If you choose to respond would you be allowed or like to let me know how puppygirl is doing? I myself could not live like that but from what I’ve heard about her she seems very content and the concept is quite cute, and as always I am infinately interested in learning more about her and everything you write about!
I wish you, your Master, puppygirl, Rupert, and the house slave (as well as anyone I may have missed) a very happy and adventerous Valentine’s day!
Slaveduties,
I’ve been an avid reader of your blog for awhile now, and firstly wanted to thank you for opening my eyes to a whole new side of myself.
I’m undoubtedly a submissive. Furthermore, I’m a lesbian, and it has been my experience that it’s very, very hard to find a dominant woman. Fortunately, when I confessed my desires to my girlfriend, I was lucky enough to have someone who was equally intrigued by the possiblity and we are now involved in a D/s relationship, although not 24/7 (it’s something we’re discussing, although our current living situation makes it difficult).
I have joined ALT in search of friends, and I have made quite a few. I was wondering, if you wouldn’t mind telling me, how old you were when you first realized this was the lifestyle you wanted. I seem to be quite a bit younger than everyone I’ve met so far, and some comments have been made about it. My other question is – and this is quite personal, so please don’t feel obligated to answer it in any way – how is your relationship with your family? What I mean is, I saw that you said they don’t know about your lifestyle. Do you visit them? If you do, how does that work?
And, like Curious, I’m very interested in learning about puppygirl. I don’t know if I could take on that role, but I’m not opposed to it either.
Thank you so much. I hope all of you had a lovely Valentine’s day.
Fondly,
New and Wondering
Hi New and Wondering, I wanted to say sorry for taking sooo long in getting back to you! I’m not really sure when I first realized that BDSM was the type of lifestyle best fitted for me, Ever since I was first interested in boys I would go out with these verbally abusive alpha male type guys. I guess I had been looking for it from the very start. When I was about 18 I had a best friend who was into BDSM or rather curious about it and I would let him tie me up every once in awhile. Our friendship never lead to anything more, mainly i think because he was also a submissive deep down. But that’s when I first started to understand myself and why I kept throwing myself into these messed up relationships. Because of my friend I started to search the net for BDSM porn and chat groups. The more porn I watched the more I became sure that this is what I had been missing in my life. I guess that’s also why my blog deals with a lot of porn haha. But yeah, at 19 I found myself at my first bondage party and fell absolutely in love with it. I was like one of those people who get their first tattoo and then become obsessed! And I’ve been that way ever since. It’s been a crazy journey and I have learned so much about myself since then, but I have honestly enjoyed every moment of it. You’re lucky if you have discovered this side of yourself early. I’ve met some people who have only figure it out later on in life and have either suppressed it unhealthily or have had their relationships suffer greatly from it. The best of luck to you=)
yours truly,
Slaveduties
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