Questions & Answers About Me
by Slaveduties
A slaveduties.com reader by the name of “TheClaimedBeauty” posted a comment in this post and had some questions about myself, Master, and our life in general. I appreciate all of your comments more than you know, and I thought it’d be really nice to answer these questions in a post! Below are the questions that TheClaimedBeauty asked, followed by my responses, I hope you enjoy – and if you have any followup questions, or more questions please post a comment, or post in the forums! The picture above I found suitable because some of the questions that were asked made me think about life without Master…
1. How many years are there between your master and you?
- Master is two years older than I am.
2. Whats your real name? Whats your masters’ real name? Or are you not allowed to give out that kind of info…?
- We have always preferred to keep ourselves anonymous – and to be honest, I haven’t heard my name since the day Master collared me. I don’t even consider that name mine anymore, so for all intents and purposes my name is “slave”, “slut”, “bitch”, “cunt” and “my love” or a variety of other pet names ;)
3. Is there anything you dislike about BDSM in particular? Like, a certain fetish that is popular among the commnity but you dislike it for any reason? Does your master dislike anything?
- This is a bit of a difficult one to answer. I like what I don’t like – does that make sense? No probably not! I’ll explain. Basically, the more pain I feel (I don’t like pain) the more I dislike something I’m forced to do, the more I love it. I am so submissive that it’s not each specific fetish that fills me with lust or joy, it’s the being forced to do it part that keeps me where I am. For example, every morning Master’s cock is inserted into my mouth and he releases his urine into me. I am his toilet – I then give him a nice blowjob. I hate this ritual of being his toilet every morning, but I love it because I am his slave, and this is what he desires. If I had to pick one specific fetish I really dislike it would definitely be watersports…I hate the taste of urine, but I’ve swallowed so much at this point that I’m pretty used to it. I wouldn’t feel sad if I never had to again though (fat chance of that though!)
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4. Are you allowed to listen to any kind of music? If so, what kind?
- I am not allowed to listen to music, but Master often has music playing and therefore I listen to it when he does. Everything from Nine Inch Nails to The Gorillaz to Muse to Classical music and Jazz are standard in the household.
5. What exactly do you do in your spare time?
- I often spend much of my spare time tied up. Master really enjoys forniphilia, so tying me up as a piece of art, or as a footstool or holding a lamp in a corner that he can admire while he works or watches TV (if I don’t have anything to do) is very pleasureable for him. If I’m not in one of those positions during my free time, I’m usually blogging, or finding things to blog and post about. I have an insatiable libido – the house slave and Master no matter how hard they try cannot quench it – so I masturbate a lot while browsing and blogging.
6. What do your parents think of your lifestyle? Do they even know?
- My parents do not know of my lifestyle, Master’s mother knows that he is in the adult industry but doesn’t know details.
7. Do you have a myspace/facebook/livejournal? If so, can you give me the links (lol)
- I haven’t gotten on the social networking wagon yet! I really should, it’s just a matter or having enough time to keep up with it. I don’t want to have a page that doesn’t get tended to. I like responding to messages and comments (this post is proof of that! lol) – so I wouldn’t want to do it unless I knew I could dedicate myself to keeping up to speed with it. Maybe I’ll ask Master for a little more free time to do this :) I’ll definitely post about it if I do!
8. Do you or your master ever participate in porn that ends up on the internet or on DVDs? If not, why?
- Master decided that he wanted to be a documentarian. He is not really an exhibitionist, and he always wanted to keep that level of professionalism between him and those he worked with. I don’t know all of his reasons of course, but ultimately he enjoys remaining behind the camera.
9. Do you live in a nice home? I mean, the house itself. Is it a mansion, two story, an apartment…?
- Master’s earnings from the adult industry aren’t quite enough to buy us a mansion ;) It’s a common misconception about the adult industry as a whole. He also targets a somewhat small market. It’s very hard these days to be in the business he is in (and I guess I am to because of this blog) – due to the amount of piracy that occurs. I don’t want to go on a rant about it, but my body takes the brunt of Master’s frustrations, so I’m on the front lines :) We live in a very very modest home with a small backyard…Master is a saver, I have no idea about money – but I know that he is very cautious about his spending habits, which is why I guess we could afford this place. To me, it’s home though, and I love it :)
10. I read your post about your puppy-girl, and I’m sorry to hear that she left, but I have a question about just that: leaving. What exactly do you say to a master if you want to leave? And what if you’re not allowed to talk? Do you just do it and say what you feel, and then go to back your bags? And the masters’ okay with this?
- If I wanted to leave, I would discuss it with Master – and if we could not find a compromise, I would likely have to live with him for a while, not as his slave – until I could re-integrate with the world, or find another Master to own me. This has never been a thought in my mind though…My Master defines me, and I can’t imagine myself anywhere but here. He is not crazy though, and would not try to stop me from leaving. It may sound crazy, based on how much I talk about him beating me and abusing me – but he does love me, and I love him. It’s like any other relationship…just…different!
11. Have you and your master ever thought about making your relationship permanent? Like, getting married?
- We are legally married, we didn’t have a wedding or anything – but he wanted to make sure I was protected incase anything happened to him, and I guess to give me a sense of security so that he couldn’t just one day put me out on my ass. I could not survive in the real world on my own anymore. I have nothing to my name, and I have no desire to – but he wanted to make sure I felt secure in his taking care of me.
12. Are you allowed to read anything (like books)? If so, what kind?
- I used to read a lot before I became a 24/7 slave…it’s very difficult to do so now, because I can’t just sit down or curl up and read a book. I am almost always in some kind of bondage, even now as I type this my wrists are bound together, and my legs are tied together kneeling indian style writing on the laptop on the floor (no desks for slaves!). Once I’m done with this I’ll likely have to get back to cleaning or maybe be tied up in a corner. Being tied up is always very strict and stretches my body to it’s limits and no limb is ever free, so it’d be impossible to read a book. All that being said, I do read on the internet quite a bit. Stories, blogs etc.
13, What are your favorite positions/things to do in BDSM?
- My favorite bondage position is the Hogtie. It’s the ultimate bondage position to me – it’s the first one I ever saw, and perhaps thats why I love it so much. I have been trained by Master to the point where the soles of my feet touch the back of my head, and my hands are in a reverse prayer position. It’s as tight a hogtie as is physically possible, and it took a LOT of work to be able to do it. Months of slowly being cinched tighter and tighter. Now it’s like nothing and I stay in that position for hours on end, I sleep in that position sometimes – and to me it’s the most confining, most de-humanizing position, which is why I love it so much. I’m also very proud that I can do it. In terms of other stuff to do in BDSM…I love vampire gloves, floggers, clamps, pussy stretching, huge gags, choking, gagging. I also love watching Master be with other women. I take a lot of pleasure in seeing him enjoy a non-slave’s body. How they are equals, and how they make love. It took a long time to get over the jealousy of it, but my being “cuckolded” has almost become a fetish for me now.
14. Ever read The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty by Anne Rice? It’s an erotic BDSM novel, and I’m sure you and/or your master would love reading it.
- Master has read all of them – it’s a trilogy I believe, and he loved them. He read them before we ever met. I have read bits and pieces of all of them, but never from beginning to end. It would certainly be nice to read them! Perhaps I’ll ask Master if I could :)
And that’s the end of the questions! I hope this was an informative post, and I hope my answers were satisfying enough. Again, please don’t be shy to post followup questions or more questions in the comments or on the forums!
The passage where you were talking about hating watersports but loving the submission aspect of it summed submission up beautifully. Putting up with something you hate because you know it makes your Master happy.
This pretty much sums up my life ;)
I had a question. I was discussing this with some friends of mine. Some times you come across these slaves who say they have no boundaries whatsoever. We thought this was rather weird since everyone has boundaries up to some point. And I was thinking, I’ve been following your blog for quite a while and you do a lot of different things that you may or may not like. Do you consider yourself a slave without any boundaries? And if you have some, are they your own or are they your Master’s?
It’s absolutely impossible not to have boundaries, I have boundaries for myself and Master has boundaries on what he is willing to do to me. I mean…will a slave with “no boundaries” then allow someone to put a dagger through their chest if their owner wanted? I think that’s a bit silly, but there are crazier things out there I suppose!
At this point though Master has beaten me so much and so many times that he knows my limits so well – better than me even, I’d venture to say.
Thank you for your comment :)
Hi. I have a couple of questions for you, but their about your life premaster and how you made the decision to be a slave. Serving someone is something that I have fantazied about for most of my young adult life. However, when I took the plunge and found someone I though could be a master, I run away from it because I was terrified. Does that mean that slave life isn’t for me? If not, how do I get over the fear? Were you scared before yu started serving your master? Also, what did you tell your parents when you moved out? Do you still get to see or talk to them? Do they visit? What do you tell them about your life?
Sorry if these are a little overwhelming but I’ve been trying to figure this out on my own for awhile. No one to talk to when you know the world will react badly. I tried to get help on a website for BDSM but all I got was some stupid chic who wanted to blackmail me into being her slave. Thanks for listening though. hope to hear from you soon.
Confused
I completely understand what your going through. It can be a very very scary process. Confused is definitely a term I would feel comfortable with using when thinking about my life when getting into BDSM.
My first Master wasn’t a master at all. It was a boy that my friend and I asked to be our pimp. He was a friend, and we desperately wanted to be whores. That was the closest thing I understood to quench my submissive feelings. I didn’t know what BDSM was at the time. So we were prostitutes and we earned money, 5 dollars per blowjob etc. And we asked him to hit us when we had a bad day on cash flow. I know it sounds crazy, but it’s the only thing we understood at the time.
I guess that helped me transition…I understood what it felt like to be used and abused, and it made me realize that I could not refuse a cock. Even the ones I really did not want in my mouth, I had to take – because I learned that I would get hit if I didn’t.
Fast forward a bit – All I had to tell my parents was that I was moving in with my boyfriend, they don’t live anywhere close to here, so it’s not really crazy that I rarely see them. I do speak to them once a month or so – and I tell them only what they need to know. I do miss them, and it’s tough being away from them for sure…but I love my life too much, and it’s a worthwhile sacrifice.
If you are scared when you are with your Master, it does seem a bit concerning – especially when starting off. You shouldn’t feel fear at the start. If you get truly into it, it can be normal. I feel fear of punishment all the time. It makes me a better slave. If your feeling fear for your safety – that shouldn’t be normal. Are you sure it’s fear? Or is it nerves? Do you feel less fear or more comfortable when you are with your Master after a period of time?
Nerves are normal when you start…I remember my hands and knees shaking quite alarmingly the first time I went into the boys bathroom to service my first “client”. It was absolutely nerve wracking, and I thinking back on it – I think the nerves were probably mis-interpreted as fear.
First and foremost you need to trust your Master – this is a lot easier said than done. It takes a lot of time, and building up slowly to get to that point. My submissive feelings were and are so strong that I plunged in no matter how much fear I felt…the cravings were just too strong. Yours may not be as strong, which is absolutely fine – everyone is different. Try and go slowly, and if this new Master doesn’t like it…find a new one. It’s all about trust and following this journey together, so that you both get what you need from it.
I hope this helped a little bit – please don’t be shy to keep asking questions. Using the forums is a good idea, as it’s easier to get input from other people as well there :)
Hello Confused.
Don’t get discouraged because a few things haven’t gone quite to plan. :D
Tell us a little more about your first Master. Where did you meet? How long were you friends and how much did you talk about your limits before you became his slave?
An M/s relationship is just like any other in some respects, you have to know your partner before you go to the next level. Become friends with your Master and go on a few vanilla dates with him before engaging in any sex…by taking it slowly like that you’ll find out weather he’s a real master or just “playing master”, needless to say the latter isn’t good news. If he’s a real Master he’ll understand that you need to trust him before you even think about letting him tie you up; use that trust building time to learn about each other’s wants and needs and make sure you talk about your limits in that time.
There are a lot of good Masters out there but there are also a few people “playing master”. If they’re playing Master they don’t really care about your feelings and well being, all they want it to hurt you as much as they like and take advantage of you when you can’t fight back.
Has your master completely given up on his blog now? I remember he had one and i found it quite fun hearing 2 sides of the same story!
Hello,
I hope I am able to write this in such a way that it will make sense. I have been an avid reader of your blog for quite a while now, …Or should I say listener, since I’m blind and use screen-reading software to read? …LOL. I find your blog very entertaining and fun to read, except for one thing. …I can’t see the pictures!
Might you, or your Master be able to either record descriptions for the pictures, write descriptions or caption the pictures or something so that visually impaired (Not handicapped) readers can get mental pictures to enjoy like their sighted counterparts?
If I may ask, and you don’t have to answer if you aren’t permitted to or don’t want to, but how old are you? When did you realize you were submissive?
How did you discover BDSM? Did you always know that you wanted to be a slave? Or did you start out as just being submissive?
Do you ever have days where you don’t feel like submitting?
I hope all of this makes some kind of sense to you…I had so many questions rolling around in my head and just asked the ones which were most prominant.
By the way, are you going to do another podcast any time soon? I have your first two, and being shamelessly bisexual, I must say both you and your Master sound very attractive!
:)
Thanks in advance for any questions that fulfill my inquisitiveness!
Hugs,
TheMusicalSlave
Oh my god! Thank you so much! Seriously, you don’t know how much this means to me! I was so curious, but then I got really.. I don’t know, embarassed, I guess, because I thought I posted my questions in the wrong section. But you answered them anyways! I really appreciate that :)
how do you deal with your parents and when they want to see you? what about siblings if you have any?
I don’t have any siblings, my parents live quite a ways away so phone is our main method of contact
sorry i forgot this, but did you really get branded? what does it say?
Yes, I was actually branded :) I wear it proudly! As for what it says, well – I’m not supposed to say!
One more question, hehe…
What did you want to be when you grew up, before you realized that you wanted this lifestyle?
I remember wanting to be a marine biologist, but I don’t think it was serious – I just liked dolphins lol – I don’t ever remember really having any serious career goals
I’m sorry for what I am about to write, I have a feeling I have to much to say at once.
So ahead of time, please forgive me.
I am not new to the bdsm world, But compared to yuoo and the other woman I admire, I’m just a little punk to be honest. I guess that is the reason I am coming to you. I have questions about the life, the feelings, what you go threw, the usual things you have to answer day in an day out.
1. How did you know your master was the right one to trust?
2. How did you find your master, please explain exactly, was it a site or what?
3. How do you continue to do it every day, being able to take so much? I know for an experienced woman like you it’s not hard, but what about for the beginners?
4. How do I know that I am or am not right for the “Slave” Title?
5. What is the hardest thing you do?
6. How did it first start out, you and your master in actual Bdsm acts? What did you do, was he patient or was it force? How did you react?
7. Where you scared at first, to having someone know whats best for you? Knowing you could trust someone fully with yourself?
8. Do you ever get annoyed with what you do?
9. I am a natural dominate, I have been a Femdom, I have figured out that I hate being dominate, How would I go about being something similar to you? Was there a site you learned what you do at? Or was it taught? If it was taught by who? And where can a New be like me find or figure out “The ropes.” No pun intended.
10.And what would you give advice to people like me Female and male alike?
Oh and the last question, Where can I go to learn how to be a proper slave?
Interesting blog, I just came upon it. I will wander back this way again.
Dev
Does your Master allow you the freedom to leave the home to do things such as go get your hair or nails done or anything like that?
Hi, I was hoping to ask some advice. I started seeing my BF just over 2 years ago. He is a Dom, and I consider myself a sub, although, in the past I have just had poisonous relationships. (you know the jerks) Anyway, my BF has been very understanding, and hasnt pushed me in any way but he now hopes to take things a bit farther. I’m not sure if I’m ready for a “collar” so to speak. He asked me to look on the net for some ideas of different ideas for “Bedroom play” which I was doing, (that lead me here). But I have never been in a real Master/Slave relationship before, and I just dont know if I want to give my whole life over to him. I’m going to be 40 this year, not like I’m ancient, but I’m not a spring chicken either. I’m interested in the lifestyle, but I dont know if its right for me. Maybe if you have some time, we could talk at some point? Maybe you could help alleviate some of my fears?
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hi, id like to know a little more about BDSM but i have a young child, and was wondering how it would work around her, i love being submissive but where me and my boyfriend are in our relationship is very busy with our young daughter, and very little time is spent in private by ourselves, so is there a way to acomadate so tht i can still be a loyal slave and he can have his way with me without disturbing the growth and normality of my daughters life as i wouldnt want our fetish and fantasy becoming her reality in anyway.
interested and concerned mother