The Little Things in a BDSM lifestyle
by Slaveduties
In life, often times it’s the little things that can make such a huge difference.
This is a quick update, but basically…yesterday I helped Master film a concert he got hired to do. That meant about 6 hours of being on my feet running around, moving things…and harder than shooting porn, with this during the actual show I had to stand still for 2 hours and basically not move and move the camera around. We used a pretty awesome camera called a Sony EX-1 that we rented for this event, and it’s pretty heavy!
All this to say, by the time we got home…I was exhausted. Completely fried…my body was aching from head to toe.
Worse part is, we have to do it all over again tonight – and tomorrow night! It’s not a bad thing, Master is very glad to do it, and it’s paying pretty well…but basically Master helped me shower, and then he did something he just about never does. He put a blanket and a pillow in my cage.
This may sound like a small thing, but as someone who feels the thin bars of my cage in my body as I sleep every night – this was HUGE for me. I woke up this morning feeling a lot better, and then I scoured the internet for hours to find this image…to find something that kind of represents what I experienced last night.
It’s the little things in life, especially a BDSM lifestyle that involves a lot of physical hardship that really bring you back above water and make you so happy :)
I just wanted to share that!…
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Wonderful entry, SD. It would seem that submissives often see the greatest things in the small stuff. A thing that most in any situation should see, and submissives get that every day. Well done!
Right…I’m submissive but I can’t agree with Talimara…or you..to sleep in a cage with no pillow or blankets is simply cruelty..it has sod all to do with BDSM/Master & slave relationships.
I’m going to be in trouble for this – Sir has banned me from your site as I was getting upset and asking too many questions that he couldn’t/didn’t want to answer.
All I know is you are working bloody hard at a job you didn’t sign up for whilst being underfed (salad and nuts are not going to sustain you whilst doing hard, physical work) and still mistreated.
Sending you lots of hugs (I think you need them)
Sue xx
Sue. As a member of this website for years and having talked to her master as well as to SD on a number of occasions I have to say that I’m a little shocked at your post. SD and her Master have a very loving relationship that has taken years to build. She does as she is told as any slave/sub would do when she/he truly trusts their Master. She finds enjoyment out of serving him and doing what he asks.
I am honestly worried about you and your relationship. Your Sir doesn’t allow you to look at this website because he can’t answer your questions? That is dangerous. We are all open here and love and support each other. We know that in order to have this kind of relationship the most important part is to have an open line of communication with the person you are putting your full trust in. Another important part is learning as much about the lifestyle as possible so you can practice it in a safe and consensual way. And if he simply is censoring your viewing of a site because he doesn’t understand or is scared to learn about something then you need to seriously consider who you’ve put your trust in. If you have any questions please, always feel free to post them to us in the forums. We all would love to answer anything you want to know about. That is why we are here.
Sue. As a member of this website for years and having talked to her master as well as to SD on a number of occasions I have to say that I’m a little shocked at your post. SD and her Master have a very loving relationship that has taken years to build. She does as she is told as any slave/sub would do when she/he truly trusts their Master. She finds enjoyment out of serving him and doing what he asks.
I am honestly worried about you and your relationship. Your Sir doesn’t allow you to look at this website because he can’t answer your questions? That is dangerous. We are all open here and love and support each other. We know that in order to have this kind of relationship the most important part is to have an open line of communication with the person you are putting your full trust in. Another important part is learning as much about the lifestyle as possible so you can practice it in a safe and consensual way. And if he simply is censoring your viewing of a site because he doesn’t understand or is scared to learn about something then you need to seriously consider who you’ve put your trust in. If you have any questions please, always feel free to post them to us in the forums. We all would love to answer anything you want to know about. That is why we are here.
A very lovely post, SD! :)
And I agree with sWITCHed_on. SD might live a very hard life that not all of us are able to do. I only talk to SD on very few occasions, I know there is nothing wrong. I have been following this website for about 2,5 years now and just reading every single possible post I could find showed me the same thing. Your Master might find this cruel, because SD does live in a very hardcore form of the lifestyle, but it does not mean it is wrong. She infact gets taken of very well and chooses and wants to be treated as she is. I even know, from talking to her and reading, that if her Master would not do this, she would eventually look for someone who would. If two people love each other enough and both really agree to something, nothing is wrong with taking it extreme. As long as no permanent damage gets done (not talking about branding or anything, that is a different subject) and she is healthy and happy, it is wrong to judge and say it is wrong.
I also find it very wrong from your Master to say you are not allowed to visit a website like SD. I for one have learned A LOT just from reading the blogs, then signing up to the forums and talking to people about it. In fact, without the website of SD – I would have not learned to know myself as well as I do now. And would probably not have taken my chance yet in playing, because I would still be ashamed. Questions are fine and need to be asked. And answered. If he cannot explain you instantly, it is his job to find out, or to give you the chance to do so. If you do not learn, you do not grow or disrupt the process of that and that can end up very wrong.
Urgh, made a lot of spelling mistakes there because I was upset with annoyance … Lol. Sorry about that.
Just one more thing, heads up SD. :)
You might live a life not a lot of people can or understand, even within the community of BDSM or those who like it in any way, but that is fine. I know you are kind of dumb sometimes in life with choices, but I know you current Master was the right choice. And I know from reading your Master only has taken you this far in to BDSM because he saw from you that this is what you really want. In that way your household and this community have learned me a lot and have become a sort of model (and ‘family’) I have learned a lot from. Thanks. :)
I’m sorry if I upset people and realise that I didn’t express myself very well. Sir banned me from reading this blog for my own good..I was getting over emotional and very upset (my emotional reactions are something we’re working on). He, personally, does not want a slave and admits he doesn’t understand the mindset but finds nothing wrong with it..each to his own and as long as it does no harm to anyone everyone should be free to do what they want.
What I have a problem with is the choosing of this lifestyle at a young age…how many of us truly know what we want at 18? I certainly didn’t.
As a mother I find the bleak picture portrayed in the blog deeply upsetting.
I’ve been following the blog for well over a year now (and have read all the posts from the beginning) and have become upset at the change in tone…gone is the humour, gone is the acceptance. They have been replaced with phrases such as “the feeling was beyond helpless” and questioning why she couldn’t eat what the others (who had probably worked less hard) were eating…etc. etc..
I know that Slaveduties chose this lifestyle but she chose it to be a “mindless slave” (her words not mine) and that has changed…far more is being expected of her…and I don’t think she is a willing participant…how can she be? She freely admits that Master broke her physically and rebuilt her as a slave…so how can what is happening be “safe, sane and consensual”? She has been conditioned to accept whatever is thrown at her…..including being beaten senseless because she wouldn’t use her safeword as she didn’t want to let Master down. A Master who really had her best interests at heart would have known this and what have called red on the scene.
As for long term harm…..I think she is going to suffer physically in her joints (arthritis) at least..and that is something that I wouldn’t wish to happen to anyone.
I would just like to post an encouragement for everyone to continue to talk about this, as I think Sue does have some legitimate questions that it would be good to discuss. At least, the part about suffering from arthritis is definitely a concern.