Goddess Starla Vlogs to Slaveduties Community!
by Slaveduties
This is a first for me, and I’m a little bit flustered to be honest! It is a great honor for me for my good friend Goddess Starla to directly address our community here in her first Vlog episode!
I love the fact that Goddess Starla embraces who she is, she is honest and up front, she addresses the fact that some people just don’t like female domination. That is an absolutely fair point, no one is putting a gun to anyone’s head to enjoy female domination…she doesn’t come out defending herself or offended. I *love* that – she makes no apologies for who she is…because at the end of the day, literally millions of people want to kneel at her feet and do enjoy the femdom lifestyle.
Femdom is a two-way street…it is give and take. No one forces a slave into their position – slavery is given to a dominant. Only someone who doesn’t understand the desire to be submissive would critique the BDSM lifestyle, but I understand the backlash, it’s not what society typically considers “the norm” and traditionally women are usually in a subservient place. I can also understand being a female submissive and seeing a male be dominated…it can grind against our general undestanding of how we think the world works. But the reality is there are as many kinks, fetishes, sexual orientations, as there are people on this planet.
I want this place to be open and safe for people to comment. I nor Goddess Starla are angry at ‘masterslilbitch’ for her comment, free speech is valued here – but that doesn’t mean I have to agree either, nor the method or language of delivery. I post about what I’m interested in, I promote and help my friends with the gift that you guys have all given me in visiting this website, I post about whatever comes to my mind…it’s just me, this blog is a way for me to express myself, talk about things that are important to me and again, help my friends if I can.
I remember someone told me once “As long as there are at least two people on this earth, there will be conflict” – meaning, it’s impossible for anyone to agree on everything. I expect there to be conflict in this community, I expect there to be debates, different opinions…I WANT that. That’s what makes a great community, however respect should be the platform unto which all of that is delivered. Just because it’s a free and open forum doesn’t mean you should be insulting either. Constructive criticism, just like Goddess Starla says in the vlog is perfectly acceptable…if you don’t like something, or don’t agree with something – please voice that opinion…but do it in a way in which it can be taken constructively and debated. I for one have literally no idea what “one sided femdom th SD posts” means lol…
Anyway…this community is amazing, you are all amazing, everyone has their own personality and opinion and that’s what makes this all so great. I want to THANK everyone who constructively defended both Starla and slaveduties.com – not because you don’t want someone with a different opinion, but rather how that opinion was stated. I love that, and it means so much to me!
As a final thought, no one will ever be banned by me or the mods for having an unpopular opinion. However, I do expect people to at the very least have some respect. If most people knew what goes into making a website, especially a porn website cranking out content every week – the sheer amount of hard work involved, I think most people would be surprised. I know everyone thinks anyone is porn drives a Ferrari and sleeps on piles of money but the absolute opposite is actually true. The entire industry has essentially collapsed due to a plethora of reasons I won’t go into (unless you guys want me to, I can in a seperate post just let me know in the comments), but just know that people like Goddess Starla have a passion for it, and love doing it, despite the 80+ hours of work every week :)
I love you all!
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mmmmm the very first time i comment on SD’s post it turns into this !!! yikes . ok i been coming to salveduties for a very long time. actually when i learned of bdsm this was one the 1st blogs i read on 24/7 bdsm lifestyle and it had a huge impact on me . so plz know this that i truely love this site and appericiate all the hardwork behind it.
that being said i still dont like femdom i dont hate it but i m not a fan of it. and i do want to understand it .is it really the way u see Misstress in media, is humiliation a big facotr in these relationships? can a Misstress truley love her slave?i know and have read of Master/ sub relationships which turned into marriages ,they play with other ppl for night or two but r true to one another (though this is not true for all relationships) .but in Misstress realtionship even if they r married she ends up walking away from him and having other slaves and sex pateners??y? submisson is gift of a salve to Master/MIsstress and to have it thrown away for better sex ??
all these questions may seem stupid and meanigless to a Misstress but they exist in my mind and untill i understand or get answers my view of femdom wont change ….sorry
but i do like swicthed_on’s advice that if u dont like it u dont it you dont have to wacth it , i might do that.As Goddess starla said in v log its an acquired taste i agreeee its not for everyone including me
I think superior women treat their submissive partners in so humiliating way because men are much more stronger in this. They need humiliation. I should explain my opinion. I am switch. On BDSM-chats men ask for humiliaton, they need it so much that they are willing to pay for it. Their point of view on submission is so different from womens point of view. Women want humiliation as PART of BDSM, for men it is often MAIN topic.
I do want to say that the way I stated that comment was out of line….my oppinion is not the only one in the world….it was a bad day and I should not take that on everyone else….I do get very good advise from quite a few people on this site…but feel that this site has become an extention of Godess Starl and that is what I feel is wrong….I don’t feel that you should call this an open community and then only post about Femdom….just my opinion….
I myself are not really into sissy slaves however I do not see a problem with it at all, however I do every now and then like to read or watch something different :). I definetly think Mistresses can and do love there slaves why not? I think perhaps people think because there lifestyle is the way it is having sex with others and not there sissy slaves means that they don’t love them, I think sex is not everything a relationship is about it is so many other things. the men who want to serve and do serve femdoms are doing what they are doing because they need and want to do it they would not do it otherwise and I think they respect and love each other enough to do it :). how is it so different to a master and slave relationship where they have sex with others?. I think every relationship is different and humiliation I’m sure is not part of every one.
I do understand typecasting if you will men in the superior, dominant, in control role towards woman, it has nearly always been the man works and the woman stay at home and keeps house, however of course that has definetly changed and woman do so much more then that.
We just have to keep in mind not every man wants to be in control and they want to serve woman what is so wrong with that?
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I absolutely respect men who want to live as a sub and women who want to live as a domme. And I’m completely fine with it as long as it stays fantasy. The problem is that sometimes people in BDSM take their games a little too seriously. I do sometimes see sexism from both the maledom side and the femdom side. That’s fine if it is part of a fictional story. But if those people are expressing beliefs about real life, it becomes a problem (I’m not accusing anyone on this site of doing that. I’m just saying I see it from time to time across the web).
On another note, I think that being in a diverse BDSM community often increases your interests in different sides. I’m a male whose been interested in maledom bondage for 13 years (half my life) but two or three years ago, I started reading femdom stories just to see what the fuss was about. It took a little while for me to admit to myself that I was enjoying them. Now, thought I still lean heavily toward maledom, I am a switch that enjoys femdom some as well.
Slaveduties, I think the same thing happened to you. You are obviously very devoted to living with your partner as your master, but you do seem to have developed a great interest in femdom, especially with Goddess Stella’s site. Of the five “sites I like” listed on the right side of the page, three of them are specifically femdom related. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but I think that some people come to this site thinking it will be all maledom only to realize that it is really a switch site.
I love the ideas behind the Femdom Bride site, first of all, and I’ve loved the samples and such that I’ve seen incidentally around the internet. I’ve been contemplating joining up to see more.
Anyway, I’ve got a question that maybe someone can address. I’ve always been drawn to the idea of a lifestyle relationship similar to this, but there’s something about it that stops me. There are parts of me that couldn’t exist like that – I have alpha tendencies that contrast greatly with my submissive tendencies. I fear that being solely submissive would let me expand in that regard, yet still leave me one-dimensional and greatly limit my potential as a partner. I often wonder if someone like Randy has had personality traits that became lost in the lifestyle too. How do you reconcile this sort of thing? It seems like it would expand your intimacy in a very specific way, but would from the top’s perspective, it’d inevitably become an obstacle in terms of truly knowing and loving your partner as a whole. A slave that spends all day locked up and doing chores isn’t necessarily growing as a person – isn’t going to be able to tell you about new things that he’s done with his friends, or new books that he’s read, introduce new things to your life or be an interesting and independent person, etc…
A second subquestion comes up, that someone asked earlier – can a mistress truly love a slave when the slave lives in such a limited world? I love my dog, but after 13 years, in terms of his capacity to be an interesting person, he hasn’t recommended any good books to me, or convinced me to take up tango, etc.
I know it comes off skeptical, but I’m raising questions from a pretty earnest place.
Dave, BDSM relationships can be set anyway you want. If you don’t feel like the 24/7 lifestyle is right for you, then set some boundaries. Maybe the lifestyle can exist during certain days of the week or certain months of the year and otherwise it would be a vanilla relationship. Or maybe some parts would be 24/7 while other parts wouldn’t be or wouldn’t be BDSM related at all. A partner who loves you will accept your gift of submission without doing anything that makes you uncomfortable. Not all BDSM relationships have to be as extreme as the ones you see on the webs sometimes.
I wish I could watch this video and understand it, but like all the other videos and such posted on this site, there’s no way for a deaf person like me to understand them. Is it at all possible for a transcript or similar to be posted or linked to for said videos so that us deafies can understand what goes on? Thanks for your consideration :D
That’s a great idea MK! I will start a discussion section in the general topic and ask if memebers can take turns typing up a transcript. I would love to do this for you and if I have any extra time in the next few weeks I will but my masters program is pretty demanding right now. If I can’t get it done for you I will certainly find someone who can!
Thank you! That would be awesome!!
I would be willing to help you and make scripts, but I can not guarantee you perfect English sentences in it (Even though I love the language, it is not my native); But if you have any specific video you would like transcriptions for, feel free to send me a private message on the forums. I am not online very often, but I would defenitly see what I can do for you.
Thank you for starting a vlog Goddess Starla.
i’m a big fan of randy/dicklet. he has the dream lifestyle. Very cool.
I think life style aside you really have to admire a woman who can look the internet dead in the face and be confidant with what she does. People on the internet can just be horrible sometimes because of the safety of it, and the fact that someone can so strong is really a beautiful trait, no matter what the person does.
i am slave of mistress SAMRA i need her piss in my mouth
I just want to say your personal accounts of your sex life are amazing. I dont know if you are still connected with the site or your beau, sorry cant call him by your name. My gf thinks its weird that I look at your site and I used to because I am in the same industry of s.e.m and figured it was an internet marketing ploy but there is truth and feeling in your posts. She could never be in you position, she is a mechanic and I am an office worker, but at home she is truely a submissive. But your blog has helped me to see the beauty in her and get over my own wants.Truelly being a dominant is more about making the others dreams realized than it is your own even if its about my pleasure. would have made this a forum topic but its a little prejudiced about letting new commentors.
Just wanted to say that thanks for your inspiration. It hasnt neccesarrily changed our sex life, I still bang her to multiples and then she cleans me off and finishes with me in her mouth like always. I am more often calling her beautiful and sexy and slutty to her enjoyment because of your blog tho.
Is this site even active anymore