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Many of the regular readers have probably read these Q&A posts before, for those that haven’t if your curious here they are:
#1 Questions and Answers
#2 Questions and Answers Continued
As it happens, user “Tristesse” had some more questions, of which I am delighted to answer! The curiosity about my BDSM lifestyle is extremely flattering to me. I was always the quiet kid, and never did seek the spotlight – but this site and it’s amazing community certainly has enabled me to share my story, and more importantly – through the dozens of emails I get a day from the community, has hopefully helped me to help others like me! So without further ado, here’s the questions asked of me by Tristesse
1. Are you still going to be shelved and boxed permanently when you reach 30/when you are no longer deemed useful?
This was honestly a bit far-fetched from the beginning. It was a huge fantasy of mine, and Master was more than happy to oblige and try it, but ultimately it wasn’t realistic and not doable. We have done smaller stints though, in which I am placed in tight confinement for several days at a time. I have a love/hate relationship with it obviously – as since the day I became “lead slave” my mind has once again had to be kind of…reactivated. Between this site, and managing the house slave and all my tasks (and the puppyslave before she left) – I can’t be that mindless being I had once aspired to be.
2. You are allowed to speak again, I presume? If not, how do you do it? How DID you not speak for 9+ months? I’m not sure I could give that up.
Yes I have been allowed to speak again for quite some time now…I can’t remember if I made a post about it back then, I’d have to look it up. Anyway, yes I can speak – and to answer your other questions…it wasn’t very hard to not speak. My mindless slave brain at the time had nothing to say. I was simply a tool to be used and abused, and I was extremely happy – I didn’t miss speaking at all. It wasn’t difficult to start speaking again…I still screamed plenty during my time as a mute, so it’s not like it felt weird to have sound coming out of my mouth – it was weird being able to communicate in a way other than body language though. I think most things I do aren’t for most people – and neither is this probably :)
3. Are your permanent body modifications still on-going? What has been happening in that regard?
Nothing permenant has been done to my body since the branding. Master has thought of a few things, but he is very hesitant to do something so extreme as to wreck a life I might have if ever I do decide to leave his ownership.
4. When did you become sure that your Master is the one you would like to have for life? (This might be a repeat, sorry if it is, but I am struggling with this myself. Sometimes I feel he’s the one I can take it to the 24/7 level with, but sometimes, I’m uncertain…)
I don’t think I have an answer to this question to be honest. Your uncertainty won’t go away anytime soon…when I was bouncing between Masters, I was always uncertain. Only after several months of living as Master’s 24/7 slave did the uncertainty finally fade. You won’t feel certain until you’ve given it a shot for a couple of months…or maybe in your case it’ll be days or weeks. This stuff can vary greatly between people, so there are probably as many answers to this as there are owned slaves.
5. Is there any age you consider to young to do BDSM play? (after they’ve reached sexual maturity, of course!)
Another hard one to answer…obviously the rule of thumb is – all is good as long as it’s between two consenting adults. That being said, there are people that mature a little fast and a little slow. Someone might be 26 and not mentally mature enough to make good rational life decisions. Or someone might be 21 and extremely mentally mature and very able to make a critical life decision involving BDSM into their life. Ultimately everyone needs to make their own thought out decisions and learn from their mistakes…this applies to lifestyle slaves as well as anyone else :)
6. How did you get rid of your gag reflex? I’m trying to train mine, but it doesn’t seem to be working as well as I hoped it would…
Practice, practice, practice! The big thing is keeping your throat open and keeping it and yourself as relaxed as possible. I still have a gag reflex, if I want it – I can still gag…it still takes the concious thought to keep my throat open when a cock is in it, otherwise I gag with the best of em hehe. Practice on toys as much as you can. Sitting on the computer? Shove something in your throat and just get used to it over long periods of time. Also if you do have a Master, it’s a good idea to have him take an active role in training your throat…
(rest of this answer and more questions after the break!) (more…)
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