While the Cat is Away, the Mice Will Play

First of all, Happy Canada Day to all my Canadian readers and friends! I’m feeling extremely good today, because this morning was the first time I could stand up straight for about three days. I scoured the net high and low to find a visual representation of what the past few days have been like, and the picture above is the best and closest thing I could find. Eerily accurate, actually. Master went away for a few days, and could not bring us along. Into the cage, the house slave and I went!

It was an extremely uneventful several days. The high points were when Goddess Starla and her sissy hubby, Master’s close friends came into the small side-room where the cage is, once a day to slide food into our temporary home, and to empty our bucket. It would be terribly dangerous to leave us caged in a house alone, so she and her hubby stayed at the house for the duration, but only came into the room to perform these tasks.  Of course her hubby would do the work, while we were allowed to stare and give little kisses to her feet through the bars. Aside from that, it was a whole lot of sitting around and being bored. I almost wish that Master had tied us up, so that we’d have some kind of pain to manage, or discomfort. This was more pure frustration – being forced to kneel unable to stand was extremely frustrating after the first 24 hours (or what I thought was about 24 hours, I had no idea really).

The house slave and I made the best of it though. I sucked on her feet constantly to quench what my long time readers will know is my insatiable foot fetish, we’d get each other off every few hours to pass the time, and to be honest it was actually kind of nice to just be really intimate with her. We barely spoke, she very rarely speaks – but over the past several years that she’s been in the house, we’ve grown close and share a certain comradery together, due to our similar positions in life. Our libido’s are similar, as well as our boredom, so we explored each other’s bodies more than we ever have before. I think perhaps Master had this in mind when we closed the door and applied the padlock to our cell…perhaps he was trying to get us to be even closer than before – and in truth, it worked marvelously.

Has anyone else experienced long-term imprisonment within the context of BDSM? Do you have fantasies about it? I know I’m already kind of excited for the next time Master has to go away :)

Also if your interested, this picture is courtesy of DecorativeGirls.com – great little website that I’ll be talking more about in the future, as it depicts some more eerily similar things to my own lifestyle!

It Takes Two to Tango

I’ve spoken about Alt.com numerous times already, and for good reason. To feel the full effect and explore the possibilities that BDSM has to offer, it really takes two to tango. Self-bondage is fun (god knows I tied myself up enough) – but to feel truly helplessly bound, or to truly bind someone helplessly, or do whatever cruel perverted things you want to them…it takes two to tango. This forum post by DarkTruth, an avid poster on the Slaveduties.com Forums quoted something I wrote a while back – and it meant a lot to me that he felt as if I was talking to him specifically. It means a lot to me that my blog talks to people. Sure I post plenty of porn, which I think all of us love – but I’m also very proud that there is something that people can take away and think about as well.

From this post:“I know the stigma that comes along with any type of online dating site. But you have to admit that this isn’t just a dating site. Okay so people who use dating sites are sometimes labeled as being desperate or a little crazy. But I mean those prejudices happened because it is relatively easy to ask someone out on a date and there are plenty of things that you can do in your own town that will enable you to potentially find your ‘soul mate’. But with BDSM it is different. There aren’t that many places to go unless you live in a big city that has a large BDSM community. And even then, you have to admit that these communities can be a little cliquish and rather small at times.”

What I said then, still holds true now – and will likely always hold true. BDSM will likely always be on the fringe of society, which is fine, but it does make meeting people quite difficult. People can waste years of their lives hopping from relationship to relationship, hoping someday they’ll find someone kinky – and like DarkTruth said…not only kinky, but into their particular kinks. I know many people who spent years as lonely souls in this situation – and it broke my heart to watch them. While I sat back, so fulfilled, constantly under Master’s thumb – feeling so owned.

I think BDSM dating sites like Alt.com have changed people’s lives for the better – I believe they are a technology in this world that has truly helped people. I think they used to get a bad wrap, like only nerds go on those…but in 2010, internet dating sites are as normal and common as anything! They’ve gotten so much mainstream press, and so many millions and millions of people have used them, that there is no stigma about them anymore – which is truly refreshing. Why go to a meat market bar, and hope to find someone that is willing to kneel at your feet, and accept your beating? Why not just do a search for people who like that in particular? It makes a lot of sense even to a pea-brain slave such as myself!

It takes two to tango…Go Find Your Partner :)

Screams, Wax, Electro Torture, Oh my!

The delightfully demented folk over at Wasteland.com have done it again. They’ve gone and made my pussy drip again! I saw this trailer and HAD to post about it. There is absolutely nothing like being blind folded and tortured. Blindfolds are definitely bit of a “vanilla” thing, but I must say – they add a lot to extreme BDSM play as well. Sight is a huge sense – and when it’s taken away, all of your other senses pickup and become more sensitive to compensate…including touch and feeling. Each stroke of a cane, or electro-stick comes out of the black darkness of your blindness and bites at you without warning. The people over at Wasteland.com seem to be getting more and more perverse as well as more and more cruel…I can’t say that I mind :) Enjoy the trailer!

Of noteworthy mention as well is that Wasteland is the oldest BDSM site on the net. Master is fortunate enough to be friends with the wonderful people over there – and it’s a truly amazing operation. Real BDSM enthusiasts that have merged their passions of BDSM, Kink, and Fetish – with their love of film making. It’s really inspiring, especially considering that even after 15 years of making movies they are still going so strong. What is the most amazing thing in my view though is you get those 15 years of content when you become a member…pretty amazing stuff. Needless to say I’ve spent literally hundreds of hours in there, and I’m no where near finished seeing everything – and they have a whole shibari section with hundreds of galleries, and a whole library…it’s just too damn much hehe. Check out their tour – it’s a piece of art in and of itself!

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BDSM in Mainstream Media – Christina Aguilera Music Video

This forum post by user sWITCHed_on made me remember about this music video featuring Christina Aguilera. The post was about BDSM in mainstream entertainment. I’m not hugely up to date with entertainment, as I really don’t get exposed to it much, but from the little I do see, it does indeed seem that BDSM is “coming out of the closet” to the mainstream more and more every day. Is it because in today’s media, you need shock value to attract viewers? Or are people becoming more open to alternative sexuality? Tough call, what do you think? Leave a comment or post in the forums! ;)

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Life as a Slave

The life of a slave is degrading and humiliating, by nature. Not having a choice to do what you want, as well as what you do not want to do. When I saw these pictures from ForbiddenEast.com I simply could not help but resist posting about them. They made me feel at home…when I saw them, I related to them on an extremely deep level. Life as a slave is all about having one’s mind broken – to become something less than human, at least for Master and I, and many BDSM couples we know.

This poor Japanese slave is bound and put outside to be hosed down by her Master. Her pussy and asshole suffer under the obviously cold and powerful stream of the hose. Her humanity is lost in the humiliation, her pain is obvious. I’ve felt such similar abuse, such similar degradation…the psychology behind this simple act goes a long way to breaking the slave’s very mind. Using acts such as this, the slave is effectively being trained to understand and believe that they are no longer on the same level, or equal to other people.

Giving away the equality may come willingly at first, it did for me – but at one point, human survival instinct kicks in, and at that point, the loss of equality, the belief in equality must be taken forcefully. It’s not an easy process, it wasn’t even for me – who is completely and absolutely submissive. Only through extreme acts of pain, humiliation, and degradation can you break down the mind, and then build it back up as the Master sees fit. If you click the “More…” link below you’ll see more pictures from this gallery – you’ll see at the end that the Master shoves her back in the dirty, effectively making her dirty again – I believe psychologically that he is training her to understand that she is always dirty, she is always at his mercy and under his control – that she cannot be clean of his ownership. She is left there cold and shivering in the dirt, coming to the realization that she is sub-human…she is an owned object, a slave.

These are huge themes in the Japanese BDSM culture. Absolute submission, and not simple “playtime” are a recurring theme. ForbiddenEast.com in my opinion did an amazing job of making me very aware, both through the thousands of pictures and videos, but also through the huge library of literature they have contained within the Members Area. It made me feel so very at home, and comfortable – because I was in a place I knew I belonged. They have so much content there that has never been seen anywhere else, except perhaps in the Japanese underground. This is the first site that showcases this particular massive amount of content to a non-Japanese audience.

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Lifestyle Femdom

It’s no secret, Goddess Starla from Femdombride.com is a personal friend of Master. I’ve spoken about that fact many times and I’ve served her on many occasions - and you may think I’m biased, but honestly I have a really hard time finding real femdoms that actually live the lifestyle and document it, and have the same ability to show us just how much they love their life through their videos. You can tell by this little trailer I posted. Her voice, her eyes – there is no other place she’d rather be than tormenting her poor sissy hubby.

The really wonderful thing about their website is the fact that you can go back and see the very first day that her and her husband decided to delve into a 24/7 female led lifestyle. You can then watch them evolve and grow and eventually become who they are today. Goddess Starla herself has mentioned many times how actually very cool it is to be able to go watch her own life evolve with her husband. How she slowly broke his mind, introduced chastity (which he is now in permanently), how she sissified him, how she began going out with other men and satisfying her sexual needs elsewhere. It’s a pretty amazing ride, if you think about it, and the fact that you can watch every moment and turning point is absolutely astounding to me.

Another noteworthy fact is that a while ago, they actually doubled the amount of videos to their site. Previously they updated with a new full movie every Friday and they have increased that to a full movie on Wednesday, as well as on Friday (plus stories, art, interactive tease games, bonus movies etc. throughout the week). Most of you know, I have no concept of money. I don’t have a penny to my name – I don’t have a bank account, I am a pure slave to Master – but even with my meager slave brain understand that double the amount of stuff for the same price – is a pretty good deal :)

And that’s my shout out for today, so go check out their website at Femdombride.com! Gotta keep it in the family after all, and Goddess Starla and her sissy hubby are definitely such good friends that Master considers them family!

Questions & Answers About Me

A slaveduties.com reader by the name of “TheClaimedBeauty” posted a comment in this post and had some questions about myself, Master, and our life in general. I appreciate all of your comments more than you know, and I thought it’d be really nice to answer these questions in a post! Below are the questions that TheClaimedBeauty asked, followed by my responses, I hope you enjoy – and if you have any followup questions, or more questions please post a comment, or post in the forums! The picture above I found suitable because some of the questions that were asked made me think about life without Master…

1. How many years are there between your master and you?

• Master is two years older than I am.

2. Whats your real name? Whats your masters’ real name? Or are you not allowed to give out that kind of info…?

• We have always preferred to keep ourselves anonymous – and to be honest, I haven’t heard my name since the day Master collared me. I don’t even consider that name mine anymore, so for all intents and purposes my name is “slave”, “slut”, “bitch”, “cunt” and “my love” or a variety of other pet names ;)

3. Is there anything you dislike about BDSM in particular? Like, a certain fetish that is popular among the commnity but you dislike it for any reason? Does your master dislike anything?

• This is a bit of a difficult one to answer. I like what I don’t like – does that make sense? No probably not! I’ll explain. Basically, the more pain I feel (I don’t like pain) the more I dislike something I’m forced to do, the more I love it. I am so submissive that it’s not each specific fetish that fills me with lust or joy, it’s the being forced to do it part that keeps me where I am. For example, every morning Master’s cock is inserted into my mouth and he releases his urine into me. I am his toilet – I then give him a nice blowjob. I hate this ritual of being his toilet every morning, but I love it because I am his slave, and this is what he desires. If I had to pick one specific fetish I really dislike it would definitely be watersports…I hate the taste of urine, but I’ve swallowed so much at this point that I’m pretty used to it. I wouldn’t feel sad if I never had to again though (fat chance of that though!)

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Dominating Girls Vs. Boys

I read a post on the blog of Goddess Starla of FemdomBride.com (it’s in her member’s area so I can’t post a link to it) about what she finds the differences are between dominating women vs. men whom have an interest in BDSM – and it prompted me to make a forum post about it – but then I figured it’d be nice to make a post about it! Basically she goes on to say that there are some pretty stark differences between the two. She mentions that men can be much easier to manipulate and handle because if you control their cock and balls – you basically control them as a whole. She keeps her sissy husband in chastity, except when she lets him out to ruin an orgasm or tease him – which allows her that complete and utter control over him 24/7. With females though, she thinks it can be a little different and requires more of a challenge mentally.

I would tend to agree with the statement that women can be more difficult (there are exceptions of course). I’m a bit of a horny slut as many of you know, so I watch a lot of porn – and I always notice that the girls tend to be much more snarky than the boys when being dominated. I myself was never like that – I am a very willing submissive, and never talk-back…especially now after having been so broken into. But I do like to see a girl be broken from a snarky difficult slave, into a prim and properly broken one!

Male slaves though, especially ones like Starla’s sissy husband who are kept in chastity for the vast majority of their life – especially if they have submissive tendencies become moresubmissive the hornier they get. So keeping them in chastity keeps them horny…it’s a vicious circle of domination, one that Starla uses in perfect harmony with her caring and loving attitude towards her beloved sissy husband.

Goddess Starla does go on to say though that while there are stark differences between the two, that there is one huge and very meaningful similarity. She says that you get a lot more out of your slave when they are kept aroused. That is absolutely true and anyone that has ever played with BDSM knows that very very well. A horny slave is a better slave. However this is where the two genders part ways again…it is a lot easier to keep a man horny than it is a woman (in general) – I personally am always horny, so I don’t really count – but in general…it’s much easier to get “user feedback” from men, because it’s pretty easy to see visually when their cock is hard. With women everything gets a little trickier.

So this begs the question, do you prefer a challenging slave, or an immediately obedient slave (whether it be male or female)? Let us know in the comments or in the forum post I already started!

Encased

Encased. Your most crucial senses robbed from you. Lying there without a choice in the world as to what you can do to change your predicament. How do you think Leila feels laying there, being forced to orgasm time and time again, over and over again. She can do nothing to alter her situation at all. She is completely encased – she doesn’t even know where she is. Is it night, or is it day? When will someone come? How much time has passed? These are just a few of the questions that go through your head. They get crazier and crazier the longer you remain encased. Will they come back? Is what you eventually begin asking yourself.

I should know…I’ve been encased for days at a time in my life as a slave. I look at this video and I see myself. And I sit here, my pussy dripping like the whore that I am. Wasteland.com produced this video – I’ve spoken of them many times, as you well know – not only because Master is friends with the film makers – but rather because their videos are far more real, using real people, doing real things as opposed to many other websites I’ve come across. Maybe it’s the fact that I know for a fact that they use real lifestyle people instead of "models" – My pussy doesn’t get wet when I know they are people not into BDSM acting like they are into BDSM…it dries me right up. Maybe thats why Wasteland videos just do it for me.

Here’s some of the outstanding photography that goes along with the video. I actually recently learned that Wasteland’s photographer is a woman – a brilliantly talented woman! In what seems like a "male dominated" world – it’s nice to know there is a female presence there. As a slave, I know well that a female presence helps me to feel more taken care of. Even when I’m getting viciously beaten – but it’s good to know there is someone like that for all the poor (or lucky) girls that find themselves within the walls of Wasteland.

BDSM Lesbian Golden Showers

As a Slave you learn that anything that your Master or Mistress gives you is a gift. You learn never to talk back to them, to bow your head towards the floor when you speak and to obey their every word. Chelsea Chainsaw is the epitome (thank you to emily for correcting my spelling in the comments!) of a Slave who has just begun the long hard route of being trained. This intense session happened during a weekend getaway with Goddess Starla from FemdomBride.com. Chelsea is far from well behaved and often uses coarse language which angers Goddess Starla to no end. It is one thing for your Master or Mistress to swear at you but a completely different thing for you to be the one swearing at them. Not only is it rude but it also challenges their dominance over you so it is pretty obvious why Goddess Starla takes Chelsea’s lack of obedience very seriously and decides to torture her by pissing all over her face.

Chelsea is forced to endure a very hard Lezdom session with Goddess Starla that includes having an anal hook deep in her ass, attached to metal chains from which Goddess Starla can control the hook by pulling on the chains, to having a bowl full of urine presented to her for her to drink. By the end of the day Chelsea’s ass is bright bright red, she’s sweaty, covered in urine and utterly exhausted. Sounds like she had a great day to me!