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More Lifestyle BDSM Questions Answered

Photo Courtesy of: Wasteland.com

Many of the regular readers have probably read these Q&A posts before, for those that haven’t if your curious here they are:

#1 Questions and Answers

#2 Questions and Answers Continued

As it happens, user “Tristesse” had some more questions, of which I am delighted to answer! The curiosity about my BDSM lifestyle is extremely flattering to me. I was always the quiet kid, and never did seek the spotlight – but this site and it’s amazing community certainly has enabled me to share my story, and more importantly – through the dozens of emails I get a day from the community, has hopefully helped me to help others like me! So without further ado, here’s the questions asked of me by Tristesse

1. Are you still going to be shelved and boxed permanently when you reach 30/when you are no longer deemed useful?

This was honestly a bit far-fetched from the beginning. It was a huge fantasy of mine, and Master was more than happy to oblige and try it, but ultimately it wasn’t realistic and not doable. We have done smaller stints though, in which I am placed in tight confinement for several days at a time. I have a love/hate relationship with it obviously – as since the day I became “lead slave” my mind has once again had to be kind of…reactivated. Between this site, and managing the house slave and all my tasks (and the puppyslave before she left) – I can’t be that mindless being I had once aspired to be.

2. You are allowed to speak again, I presume? If not, how do you do it? How DID you not speak for 9+ months? I’m not sure I could give that up.

Yes I have been allowed to speak again for quite some time now…I can’t remember if I made a post about it back then, I’d have to look it up. Anyway, yes I can speak – and to answer your other questions…it wasn’t very hard to not speak. My mindless slave brain at the time had nothing to say. I was simply a tool to be used and abused, and I was extremely happy – I didn’t miss speaking at all. It wasn’t difficult to start speaking again…I still screamed plenty during my time as a mute, so it’s not like it felt weird to have sound coming out of my mouth – it was weird being able to communicate in a way other than body language though. I think most things I do aren’t for most people – and neither is this probably :)

3. Are your permanent body modifications still on-going? What has been happening in that regard?

Nothing permenant has been done to my body since the branding. Master has thought of a few things, but he is very hesitant to do something so extreme as to wreck a life I might have if ever I do decide to leave his ownership.

4. When did you become sure that your Master is the one you would like to have for life? (This might be a repeat, sorry if it is, but I am struggling with this myself. Sometimes I feel he’s the one I can take it to the 24/7 level with, but sometimes, I’m uncertain…)

I don’t think I have an answer to this question to be honest. Your uncertainty won’t go away anytime soon…when I was bouncing between Masters, I was always uncertain. Only after several months of living as Master’s 24/7 slave did the uncertainty finally fade. You won’t feel certain until you’ve given it a shot for a couple of months…or maybe in your case it’ll be days or weeks. This stuff can vary greatly between people, so there are probably as many answers to this as there are owned slaves.

5.  Is there any age you consider to young to do BDSM play? (after they’ve reached sexual maturity, of course!)

Another hard one to answer…obviously the rule of thumb is – all is good as long as it’s between two consenting adults. That being said, there are people that mature a little fast and a little slow. Someone might be 26 and not mentally mature enough to make good rational life decisions. Or someone might be 21 and extremely mentally mature and very able to make a critical life decision involving BDSM into their life. Ultimately everyone needs to make their own thought out decisions and learn from their mistakes…this applies to lifestyle slaves as well as anyone else :)

6. How did you get rid of your gag reflex? I’m trying to train mine, but it doesn’t seem to be working as well as I hoped it would…

Practice, practice, practice! The big thing is keeping your throat open and keeping it and yourself as relaxed as possible. I still have a gag reflex, if I want it – I can still gag…it still takes the concious thought to keep my throat open when a cock is in it, otherwise I gag with the best of em hehe. Practice on toys as much as you can. Sitting on the computer? Shove something in your throat and just get used to it over long periods of time. Also if you do have a Master, it’s a good idea to have him take an active role in training your throat…

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Questions and Answers – Continued

A little while ago I posted a bunch of answers to some questions that I received in the comments section. Well, it so happens that user: “Rain_” asked some followup questions in the comments on that post, and the answers grew so long I decided to make another post about it. The picture I chose, for this one has to do with baring myself to all of you. That position is very “inspection” like. Whenever Master’s friends inspect me, that is how I am usually presented…so I guess thats why I feel that way. These Q&A posts really feel like I’m baring all to you, and it feels good…it feels great. I found that picture and it just felt right :) Now, on to the questions! And thank you Rain_ for them! And of course feel free to post more followup questions in the comments of this post if you so desire as well

1. How did you know your master was the right one to trust?

• It took some time to be honest, as I had been used for all the wrong reasons by several men in the past. As much as I enjoyed being used, being just a piece of meat…there was something different about them – they weren’t BDSM enthusiasts, they were just bad men that looked down on women in general. So when I met Master of course it took some time to realize that he was completely different. That he was a true BDSM enthusiast that understands the core concepts of “safe, sane, consensual”. It was when I realized that he was dominating me for my own desires as much as his, that I realized he was the one I could trust and see a life with.

2. How did you find your master, please explain exactly, was it a site or what?

• Good Old Alt.com :) We spoke on there for quite a while, used the webcam chat feature – then finally met at a café, at which point we’d spoken so much we kind of already knew each other. He was sitting in a chair at a table near the back when I arrived, the place was not super populated, but enough people to make me feel comfortable that nothing could happen (it’s important to meet in a neutral place first!). He had me kneel next to the table while we spoke. I remember the miniskirt he asked me to wear barely covered my ass while I was kneeling, and I know he could basically see my pussy from his position. An interesting first meeting indeed, but he made me feel so comfortable, and no one said anything about my kneeling there…which proved to me that out in the world, feeling self-concious is pretty useless, as no one really cares that much in this day in age, which is a great thing.

3. How do you continue to do it every day, being able to take so much? I know for an experienced woman like you it’s not hard, but what about for the beginners?

• It gets easier as you accept it. It’s the only life I know now…I don’t remember my life before, or what it felt like to be free. At first it was easy also, because I guess you could say I was love-struck…as time wore on though, and we settled in and it became the norm…it got harder, I had a little rebellious period and some second thoughts…then I settled really into the lifestyle and day-to-day, and it became easie againr, and it becomes easier every day. All I can say is take it day by day, and try and enjoy each little thing. Take pleasures when and where you can, keep your submissive feelings in your mind as much as you can – and as hard as it may be, try to accept your role mentally, constantly…remind yourself. Hopefully your dominant will reinforce it constantly, through a variety of actions that will help reinforce it in your mind

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Lifestyle Femdom

It’s no secret, Goddess Starla from Femdombride.com is a personal friend of Master. I’ve spoken about that fact many times and I’ve served her on many occasions - and you may think I’m biased, but honestly I have a really hard time finding real femdoms that actually live the lifestyle and document it, and have the same ability to show us just how much they love their life through their videos. You can tell by this little trailer I posted. Her voice, her eyes – there is no other place she’d rather be than tormenting her poor sissy hubby.

The really wonderful thing about their website is the fact that you can go back and see the very first day that her and her husband decided to delve into a 24/7 female led lifestyle. You can then watch them evolve and grow and eventually become who they are today. Goddess Starla herself has mentioned many times how actually very cool it is to be able to go watch her own life evolve with her husband. How she slowly broke his mind, introduced chastity (which he is now in permanently), how she sissified him, how she began going out with other men and satisfying her sexual needs elsewhere. It’s a pretty amazing ride, if you think about it, and the fact that you can watch every moment and turning point is absolutely astounding to me.

Another noteworthy fact is that a while ago, they actually doubled the amount of videos to their site. Previously they updated with a new full movie every Friday and they have increased that to a full movie on Wednesday, as well as on Friday (plus stories, art, interactive tease games, bonus movies etc. throughout the week). Most of you know, I have no concept of money. I don’t have a penny to my name – I don’t have a bank account, I am a pure slave to Master – but even with my meager slave brain understand that double the amount of stuff for the same price – is a pretty good deal :)

And that’s my shout out for today, so go check out their website at Femdombride.com! Gotta keep it in the family after all, and Goddess Starla and her sissy hubby are definitely such good friends that Master considers them family!

By the Balls Foot Worship

I think the images in this gallery kind of speak for themselves. I’m not really sure what to add, except reiterate once again that sometimes…just sometimes, I wish I had male genitalia – so that I could feel what it’s like to have something on my body so sensitive, and so able to be taken advantage of. When Goddess Starla, or any dominant for that matter – has their slave quite literally by the balls, be it with chastity and orgasm denial – or in this case a nice leash…what can that slave do to disobey? One yank produces massive pain…they are completely under the will of their Mistress.

I love seeing Goddess Starla take advantage of her husband in such a manner. It’s not always easy living in a 24/7 relationship…but this couple (Starla and Randy) have stood the test of time thus far. That means, that Goddess Starla has obviously got complete control over her sissy husband – which is the only way to really keep a lifestyle like that going. Eventually anyone would breakdown from the rigors of actually being a slave. It takes a lot of dominance from the dominant to be able to keep them in that mind-state. Trust me, I should know!

Slaveduties 2.0; Same Blog, New Face

To Belong…this is a strong need in all of us. I feel I belong to my Master, and it fulfills my very soul. Like an empty cup being filled, I was a vessel that Master filled with joy, love, and belonging. Likewise I want all of you to feel that you belong at Slaveduties.com

My blog has been around quite a while now…several years in fact. It’s amazing to think where it started – and where it has come since. I never thought I would have the readership that I do today, and it still amazes me to this day that so many people covet what I have to say. It amazes me how many comments and emails I get, from people who have genuine questions about living in a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle. I’ve been fortunate enough to help some of these people, answer their questions – and in some cases, they have become wonderful friends with Master and I.

This blog has come a long way. Even with my 24/7 BDSM lifestyle, I put a lot of work into it. My long time readers will remember the humble beginnings, and today – I am unveiling the next step. My next step with this blog. I wanted to take it into the 21st century – to give it a face that all of you might find more intuitive and more interesting. The content is the same, only the face has changed – I am the same slave I have always been.

Along with this new face, I want to bring you guys a whole lot more stuff as well…I won’t talk much about it yet, but you will know it when you see it. I want Slaveduties.com to be the one place you go to get honest opinions, real stories, and see amazing pictures and videos that I myself love from around the net. I’ll be bringing much more of that to you very soon!

Thank you everyone, for your readership, your patronage, your love, your comments…I love you all, and this site would be absolutely nothing without you. Thank you!

Torture and Tape…simple BDSM at it’s Best

This is a little preview of something that I am very familiar with….duct-tape and BDSM! In fact Master had been talking to some of his friends at Wasteland about a torture session that he had put me through and they loved it so much that they recreated their own version of our private session! It’s kind of eerie to watch Leila as she squirms around, all taped up, and unable to do a thing about it, knowing exactly how she must feel.

With her eyes and ears both being taped up, it is impossible for her to see anything and just as hard to hear what is going on. That is what is so awesome about this idea since she has no idea what is in store for her. Leila can’t even hear Master Eric X’s foot steps and therefore has no clue as to whether he is near her or not! There’s something beautiful about this simple technique of sensory deprivation. The way it allows a slave to drift into a different mindset that allows them to take in the pain as well as the pleasure that their Master is giving them. Hearing Leila’s screams, as she gets shocked with electricity and the moans she gives off as the magic wand stimulates her pussy, made me so utterly horny that it must be  enough to make anyone riled up and ready to go at it!

Fetish Art – New Wallpapers

I love working with Master’s photos from his website and making things like this desktop wallpaper – and it seems you guys like it too! Many of you have requested more after some of the other ones I did so I made a few more! Above you can see this nice picture Master took of Goddess Rosalie and her slave Elizabeth worshipping her shoes! I made sure to make a few different sizes so it fits most desktops I think. I also added a new little box on the sidebar of my blog (look to the right!) that features the latest wallpapers I’ve done and I’ll make a new page that features all of them. I used to have one but when I switched the theme I think I lost it – I’ll have to make a new one I guess! It’s hard finding time to post here sometimes with all the things going on in the house as of late…Master is documenting a new couple which is simply outstanding, and I’ve been helping him quite a bit with the new project – he’ll be dedicating an entire new site just to them and I think you’ll absolutely love it! He’s also contemplating the idea of documenting lifestyle petplay couples…people who live in as 24/7 puppy slave’s and owners, such as ours. What do you think? would it be interesting? Let me know by posting your comments on this post!

Here’s another wallpaper I did for fun as well – I grabbed the picture from RopeRookie.com who’s photography I find simply astounding!

Real Lifestyle BDSM Lesbian Couple

I have written about this couple several times before, and I’d like to do so again because they are so compelling as a lifestyle BDSM couple. They are lesbian couple that have been friends a long time. They were friends long before they were a 24/7 lifestyle couple, which is pretty astonishing to me to be honest!

The amazing thing is that they are still friends…yes, Ursela controls Marcy 100% at all times, but a lot of the time they are chatting about average things…gossip about mutual friends, talk about old boyfriends – it’s charming, and refreshing.

This was actually the first time that Master met with the couple to document them, and if you join the site to watch the video you’ll see the first akward entrance. Marcy was tied to a table as her Mistress introduced my Master with his camera…Marcy freaked out – as she was not told that she was about to be documented. A little fight ensued, but ultimately – Marcy recognized that this was her best friend and Mistress’ decision to be made, and Marcy really had no say. She was none too thrilled about it, but she had devoted herself to serving Ursela – and if this was what Ursela wanted…well, then – it’s what Ursela got! In this first picture we see Ursela tying up marcy getting her ready for what will be for her a tiresome, boring afternoon…but fun for Ursela and us as viewers!

Ursela has some mild forniphilia in mind for the afternoon, and so she ties up her friend/slave into a position that would be comfortable to use her as a foot stool for several hours. Marcy as you can tell doesn’t look too thrilled…afterall she has to stay completely motionless for hours, with her Mistress’ feet resting on her back. This may seem simple, but speaking from personal experience, this position becomes gruelling on the elbows, knees, shoulders and lower back, especially with the weight of legs and feet resting on your lower back! Still though she is obediant and obeys her Goddess without question.

Her amazingly cute ass is propped up in the air, and once she is tied in this position really doesn’t have much of a choice about the whole thing anyway…I know sometimes I feel like being active, and I am forced into a position such as this, and while forniphilia (using a human as furniture) is a great fantasy in the mind…after a short period of time when your entire body is aching…it becomes less fun. That being said though, I believe that is the essence of true domination and submission. You become an object, your mind goes blank or elsewhere depending on the person, and you give yourself over to total servitude.

She does look absolutely gorgeous though doesn’t she? She has a gorgeous body – her breasts are smally and perky. Ursela is very lucky to have this one! And I can myself shamelessly say that I luckily share a similar body-type with Marcy. Master excercises me daily, and so I stay extremely fit and tone. But I digress! She is an absolutely stunning slave, and Ursela is extremely proud of her!

Ursela loves having her feet worshipped – for many reasons. Marcy admitted once that she doesn’t like worshipping feet because she doesn’t have a foot fetish, but at the same time loves it because it’s something that really makes her feel like shes really worshipping someone. It amps up her servitude and makes her feel even lower, which she loves.

In this picture shes actually using her hand to prop up ursela’s foot. Ursela believes that she should never have to use her own strength to keep any part of her in position to be worshipped – and I agree! I see a lot of movies and such, where the Mistress is holding her foot up in the air…this might look fun, but in reality – that gets tiring!

When Marcy worships Ursela’s feet, she really worships them. You can see in her face that she is like…praying to her, like she is her Goddess. She submits the very core of herself to her Mistress Ursela, gives herself both physically, mentally, and spiritually to her. Mostly BDSM is playtime for most…for Marcy, it’s her religion – she worships her goddess as most people worship their deity of choice in whatever religion they choose to follow. It’s really quite inspiring as a fellow slave.

Settling in for the long haul can take a little time. It takes a little while (for me personally, and from what Marcy has told me in our conversations) to kind of settle yourself mentally into the mindset of a piece of furniture. Again, having the weight of legs and feet resting on your lower back is extremely straining on your entire body. You ache after just a few minutes – Marcy’s elbows would be burning, her arms most probably tingling on the edge of numbness, and feeling totally exposed and vulnerable with her ass in the air, and a camera documenting her when she really didn’t want it, but agreed to it to please her Mistress. The thought alone has gotten me off many times!

Ursela settled in comfortably on the couch, oblivious to the agony that is wracking the body that is her foot rest. She admired her rope work digging into the sides and soft spots all over Marcy’s body – adding another torture to her misery. Ursela can be a cruel one. You see, it’s fairly easy to slip into “sub space” when your ignored as a piece of furniture…you can go somewhere else or let your mind go blank, letting the pain dissipate from your body. However – Ursela on purpose kept Marcy’s mind in the now, and therefore in the pain – by discussing the book she was reading with her, by conversing with her, therefore forcing Marcy to stay with the pain. This was a gruelling turn of events, and I can’t imagine how brutal it must have been.

And here we see Marcy after she has finally been let out of her role as a piece of furniture. Even though the ropes have been removed from her arms, she must slowly stretch them out – as she has been tied tightly in a single position for multiple hours – doing so too quickly would cause an enormous amount of pain. You can see the deep rope marks left on her arms from the hours of gruelling servitude.

Her legs did stay tied for some time after though, as Ursela always finds it funny to hobble her slave somehow – in one way or another Marcy is usually “hobbled” meaning, she’s restricted somehow, her mobility is always taken away in some way. Ursela loves the fact that Marcy at no point in time can move very quickly or without a lot of labour involved. So whether it be her legs tied up, or little metal points between her theighs forcing her to walk with her legs apart, or a variety of other things – Marcy is under constant physical control. 24 hours a day. 365 days a year. Controlled, and owned. Like a dog.

And she wouldn’t have it any other way!

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