relationships

BDSM Dating Alternatives

I’ve had a ton of mail from you guys about Alt  as well as other sites that you all use in order to find new play partners, lovers and friends. One that kept coming up over and over again was BDSM.com. One member in particular, Master Lucas we’ll call him, wrote to me about how he found his two female slaves both on the BDSM.com forums. He had been in a long term relationship with his ex-girlfriend that came to a mutual end when they realized that they both wanted different things out of life. Having played around with some kink in the bedroom and some light bondage, Master Lucas was very interested in furthering his BDSM experience. His ex had been nice enough to experiment with him but it had always been to fulfill his fantasies and not hers. At first he joined this BDSM dating site in hopes of finding a potential girlfriend who would also want to explore bondage a little more and who would hopefully have the same fantasies as him. He dated a couple of girls he met on the site and as he gained more experience in the fetish world what he wanted become more and more clear to him. He eventually decided to try out his biggest fantasy of having a live in slave who would partake in a full time BDSM relationship with him. Although he did not find his currents slaves right away and did end up meeting and trying this 24/7 lifestyle with a couple of women he did eventually find first slave and ‘soul mate’ as he says on BDSM.com. His second slave was always found on the site after a lot of exploring on both his and his first slave’s parts. Now he and his two subs live in what he explains to be the perfect three person BDSM relationship.

This is just one example of the emails that I got from you guys explaining what sites you use or have used in the past to find your partners, slaves, Mistresses and Masters. I have to admit I love reading your success stories as well as hearing about other sites that helped you out. Keep the mail coming and I’ll post more of your stories here!

Bedroom BDSM – Realities of Lifestyle BDSM Relationships

To me lifestyle BDSM isn’t about being clad in leather 24/7, or being a mean bitch/bastard dom(me) all the time . It’s about incorporating your sexuality into your everyday life…it’s about merging what turns you on, with what you do on a daily basis – for example, doing the dishes…mopping the floor…going out for ice cream, or even lay down in bed with your girlfriend/slave and read a book!

That’s the case with Mistress Redd and her slave Scarlett…and I believe Master really documented this couple well, as many of you have expressed your liking them! You can also listen to the Slaveduties BDSM Podcast episode #1 that features an interview with Mistress Redd.

I really love this episode of Everydayslaves.com documentary that my Master does, because it’s a really great example of a couple that has turned lifestyle D/S – and incorporates it expertly into their lives. I find it so erotic, looking at this couple laying in bed, scarlett tied up, happily suckling on her Mistress’ toes, while Redd reads a book.

f I can’t even begin to explain how wet this picture makes me. It makes me wish that Master would invite Mistress’ over more often! I have been getting my fill of my own foot fetish by suckling on the feet of the house slave when I feel the urge, and thankfully she does have amazingly beautiful feet, however I do often crave to serve and worship the feet of a Mistress. Master invites Mistress friends over once in a while, and I’ve even worshipped Mistress Redd’s feet right alongside Scarlett – but those instances occur perhaps once every 2 weeks or a month. Looking at this picture makes me wish Master would get married to a Mistress and so I could have one around all the time! I wonder though, would I feel jealous if that occured? Would my place as “lead slave” be revoked as there was another female that would out-rank me in the household?

Interesting questions this post brought up in my own mind…I’m going to have to think about them, but you in the meantime go check out my master’s Lifestyle BDSM website – and enjoy!