An Internet Match Making Success
Being into BDSM can be hard on your personal relationships, trust me I know. Once you finally realize that what you really want is not just rough sex but an honest and stern Master, or maybe that you love licking feet, or like to tie people up, the world around you changes. What happens to that girlfriend or boyfriend that you are already with if they don’t accept your wants and desires? Do you blow it off and pretend like you are happy or do you leave the security of your old life and try to find a new one that will fulfill those desires? I’ve seen so many people hide who they are from loved ones and yet they would sneak around behind their partner’s back to get whipped by professional doms. Much like cheating, sneaking around to get whipped and spanked is not right. So many people think that ti is impossible to find someone with whom they can connect and who will share the same fetishes as them. I want to say to all of you non-believers that this isn’t so. You can find someone who will love you as well as take care of your darker side of desire. It’s not easy and sometimes it involves a bit of compromising, but hell what relationship doesn’t?!
I received an email this morning from Subguysissy, who had taken my advice on going to Alt.com and trying to find someone with whom he could play. He had previously been in a serious relationship but when he was comfortable enough to talk about his fantasies his girlfriend completely rejected them. She refused to be the dominant one and even said to him that what she wanted was a ‘man’ and not someone who was weak. Given the horrible ultimatum of pretending to be a manly man all the time or splitting ways so that he could find someone who would understand him better, he made the hard choice of leaving her. I’m a girl and a slave and so I can relate on the submissive level with him. I can related to the fact that you wish and pray that your partner would just spank you harder, you think that maybe you can change them or that they will change and be the dominant Master/ Mistress that you crave and need, but instead you wind up just experiencing rough sex that leaves you ultimately unsatisfied.I’ve been there. I’ve been told by a certain ex-boyfriend that I need to seek psychological help, that I am not normal. I’ve scared boys away after having told them what I really wanted. But you know what, tired as I may have been, so tired that I even considered the fact that maybe they are right and that maybe I should just keep all of this locked deep inside of me, I never did give up hope of finding someone who would get me. I have to admit that stumbling upon Alt.com was an accident. I was looking for chat rooms and blogs and sites that would form a support network for me. I thought maybe by finding other people like me on the net, I could figure out how they cope. Imagine my surprise when I find this site geared towards people just like me, to help them find partners, masters/ mistresses, lovers and friends.
So Subguysissy emailed me his story but it does not end with a breakup and terrible ending. He emailed me to tell me his story of success. Because he did find a Mistress online who lived near him and with whom he’s completely head over heels with. After 3 months of dating this guy is happier than he has ever been. She’s even keen on the idea of playing with a strapon, something which he thought he would never get to experience! I am so incredibly happy to have read his story. It always makes me happy to see someone like me, overcome all the obstacles and find their place in the world. I just wanted to share this good news with all of you and can only hope that you too, will be able to find a great consensual relationship.
Continuing with my past theme of explaining BDSM, I decided to do a little post on Femdom. Female domination, also know as Femdom is a niche within the BDSM realm. The dominant partner in Femdom is always female while the subservient slave can either be another female or a male. Usually, we see Femdom being portrayed as a female dominating a male. It’s important to note that these relationships are always consensual.
easily train him. This works especially well as a means to obtain the desired behavior from him. 
Other activities of Femdom include foot, shoe or boot worship, cunnilingus, spanking, caning, wax torutre, facesitting and more. All of which involve in some way or the other worshipping the Goddess. There’s the short explaination of Femdom, hope you enjoyed it! Feel free to add more info with your comments! If you want a good example of Femdom go to 
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